HOW WE WORK

AT ODDBIRD, CLARITY IS PART OF CONSENT. SO LET´S ANSWER THE QUESTIONS PEOPLE OFTEN FEEL BUT DON´T ALWAYS ASK.

**WHAT IS SEX COACHING, REALLY?**

Let´s clear that one up first!

Sex coaching is not about teaching people how to have orgasms. It´s not only reserved for couples, and it´s not only for people who have "problems in the bedroom". Sex coaching is practical, forward-focused support for your sexuality, intimacy, and relationship with yourself.

People come to sex coaching when they want to:

✅ feel more connected to their body and pleasure

✅ stop living on autopilot or in their head

✅ explore sexuality beyond shame, societal conditioning and performance

✅ build intimacy that feels authentic, joyful, and self-directed

✅ relate to themselves and others with more honesty and agency

This work is about how you experience yourself. Sex may be part of the conversation: so may power, fear, turn-on, boundaries, identity, confidence, pleasure and choice. You stay in the drivers seat: my role as a coach is to guide, challenge, reflect and support you as we build a sexuality and intimate life that actually fits you.

COACHING VS THERAPY

Coaching and therapy are different containers with different intentions.

Therapy often focuses on healing the past and can involve long-term clinical frameworks. Coaching focuses on actively changing your lived experience now and how to orient yourself toward the future.

Therapy is about understanding why something happened. Coaching is about asking what you want instead, what blocks that, and what you are willing to try, feel, or practice to get there. It shifts you from the mind and into the body.

Sex coaching does not diagnose or treat mental health conditions. My work is trauma-informed, however, if something comes up that requires therapy, I will always say so and refer you accordingly.

Many people do both, and they work beautifully together.

SEX COACHING VS SEX WORK

Sex coaching and sex work can look close from the outside because they both engage with sexuality, desire, bodies and intimacy, but they are not the same practice.

I work with sexuality, pleasure, sexual "energy" and embodiment: I do not provide sexual services. There is no sexual touch, no sexual interaction, no 1:1 nudity, and no erotic performance between me and my clients. EVER. The work happens in conversation, awareness and lived integration, not sexual acts.

I have worked alongside sex workers and within sexual health spaces for many years. I deeply respect sex work and strongly support sex workers’ rights: and that is precisely why I do not appropriate that identity. Working with sexuality does not automatically make someone a sex worker, and respecting sex work means naming that difference clearly.

NUDITY

In some sessions or group containers, nudity may be invited when it serves a clear intention: symbolic release or deconditioning shame. Nudity is NEVER required: it is always optional and explicitely consented to. You remain fully in control of your level of participation: consent is ongoing and can be changed at any time. For online sessions, cameras can be turned away or adjusted whenever needed.

In certain group or live containers, nudity may also be present, including from me as a facilitator, when this has been clearly framed and consented to in advance. Nudity here is not performative. It is not about being watched, evaluated or eroticized. It is used as a tool for reconnection with the body.

SELF PLEASURE AND MASTURBATION

Some of my work involves guiding clients into self-pleasure or self-touch practices as a way to explore Self-Devotion. I will only guide you verbally: the practice is done by you, for you. There is no mutual sexual activity and no sexual touch between me and clients. Self pleasure in this context isn´t about arousal for someone else: it is a practice of self-connection and empowerment.

WHAT OUR RELATIONSHIP LOOKS LIKE, IN SHORT

Our work together happens inside a clear, ethical, professional container.

What this relationship is:

✅ supportive, curious, and forward-focused

✅ centered on your experience, your reality, your pace

✅ a space where you are always invited: never pushed or coerced

✅ a relationship where power dynamics are acknowledged and held responsibly

✅ guided by my role as a certified sex coach (Sexual Health Alliance, 2025)

What this relationship is not:

❌ a friendship

❌ a romantic or sexual relationship

❌ a space where I meet my own needs through clients

Consent is ongoing and can be changed or withdrawn at any time. For longer containers, clients are invited to sign a separate coaching agreement outlining scope of work, boundaries, and shared responsibilities.

WE´VE GOT YOU COVERED.

**IS SEX COACHING ONLY FOR COUPLES OR PEOPLE WITH PROBLEMS?**

Noooo... and honestly, that idea keeps a lot of people from getting support they’d benefit from!

Sex coaching is for anyone who is curious, self-aware, and willing to explore their sexuality more consciously. You don’t need to be in a relationship. You don’t need to be “stuck”, "deviant", or in crisis. Sex coaching is not about fixing what is broken: it’s about expanding what is possible. Many people come to sex coaching because things are “fine” on paper… but not fully aligned.

If you want more agency, clarity, fun and ease in your sexual life, you’re likely in the right place!

**HOW DO I KNOW IF SEX COACHING IS RIGHT FOR ME?**

If you feel a pull toward this work but can’t fully explain why, that’s often a good sign 😉

Sex coaching may be right for you if you’re curious about your sexuality, open to reflection and experimentation, and willing to take responsibility for your own experience. You don’t need to know your goals perfectly. Clarity often emerges through the process itself!

DO I NEED PRIOR EXPERIENCE WITH BODY WORK OR SEXUALITY WORK?

Not at all!

You don’t need to be “good at feelings”, comfortable with your body, experienced in somatic practices or even spiritual. We always start where you are.
All practices or reflections are adapted to your capacity, boundaries and nervous system. This is not about performance or doing it “right”, but about doing what is right for you.

DO YOU WORK WITH CLIENTS ONLINE OR IN PERSON?

Yes and yes!

I work with clients online and in person depending on the offer and location. Most 1:1 coaching happens online which allows for privacy, comfort and continuity no matter where you are based. In-person work is offered in Europe through selected events, workshops and immersive experiences. When something is in-person, it is clearly stated on the event or offer page.

**WHAT KIND OF RESULTS CAN I EXPECT FROM SEX COACHING?**

Results vary, because this work is very personal. That said, many clients report more clarity around desire and boundaries, a stronger connection to their body, increased confidence, and a more self-directed relationship with pleasure.

You may see rapid, tangible results, however, sex coaching is not a quick fix: it’s a process that supports lasting change rather than temporary highs.

**IS SEX COACHING SAFE?**

Yes, when practiced ethically and professionally.

Safety in sex coaching is about consent, transparency, choice and clear boundaries. You are always in control of your participation: Nothing is ever mandatory, rushed or imposed.

If something doesn’t feel right, we slow down, adapt, or stop. Your autonomy comes first.

CAN I SAY NO TO AN EXERCICE OR PRACTICE?

ALWAYS. No exceptions!

I will encourage you to get out of your comfort zone. But ultimately, you know yourself best, and are always the judge. You can decline, modify, pause, or stop any exercise at any time, without needing to justify yourself. Saying no is considered a valid and valuable part of the work.

Sex coaching should increase your sense of agency, not override it 💙

WHAT IF I´M SINGLE OR NOT HAVING SEX?

Correction: you may not be having partnered sex, but you could be having solo sex. Or you could engage in intimate behaviours, feel arousal, or simply connect with your pleasure in a broader sense.

Sex coaching is not dependent on having a partner. In fact, solo work can be incredibly powerful for building self-trust, erotic autonomy and clarity before or regardless of relationships.Your sexuality belongs to you, not to your relationship status or your body count.

DO YOU WORK WITH PEOPLE OF ALL GENDERS. ORIENTATIONS AND RELATIONSHIP STYLES?

Yes. Fully and intentionally.

I work with people of all genders, sexual orientations and relationship styles, including queer and LGBTQIA+ individuals, solo individuals, ethically non-monogamous relationships, kink, and other alternative or non-traditional ways of living and loving.

To work with me, you don’t need to fit into a box or label yourself perfectly. If you are curious, self-reflective and willing to explore your experience with honesty, you are fully welcome here.

IS SEX COACHING SPIRITUAL?

It can be, but it doesn’t have to be. Some people experience this work as spiritual because sexuality can touch identity and meaning. Others relate to it purely as personal development, emotional growth or skill-building.

There is no belief system you’re expected to adopt. Practices inspired by conscious sexuality or tantra may be referenced, but always in a grounded, non-dogmatic way. Sex coaching here is practical and led by your experience, not a spiritual framework.